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Should I continue or not?Should I continue or not?

Lately, I have been blinded by do some pre-order figure and goods. I have this hobby since 2015 Summer around August and since that, my collection almost reach 73++ exclude draft goods and PO.

2016 Summer, when I came home and bring all this stuff, my parent did a little angry to me, They said 'please dont buy more this stuff' and after that I tried to promise myself to not buy anymore but I can't keep my promise with them.

After that until now (Sep 2017) I still buying and collecting those figures and goods, its like a drug to me (LOL) and of course without telling my parent until now. Next year when I have winter break and I'm planning to go home but I don't know what I should tell them. Now, its already the fourth quarter of 2017 and more goods & figures keep popping up >_<

By the way, I'm a college student which is no income and yes, I did buy all those figure using money that my parent gave to me. >_<

Sometimes, I sell my collection to get the new item that I want.


EDIT 1 : most of my collection is pre-owned and second hand item which its really cheap rather than I bought them at PO or normal price, as you guys know some online shop got drunk/crazy when they put price on pre-owned or second hand items. that's why I have a lot of figures in less than 2 years.

ex:
I got these angels at 6000 yen, both at A condition w/ box minor damage
ITEM #166972
ITEM #236243

EDIT 2 : I will tell my parent in next several months probably on November or December

EDIT 3 : I never thought this diary will become Reader's Selection
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Should I continue or not?

  • 24%Yes
  • 66%No
  • 10%Sell the goods I have since 2016 Autumn until now
  • 184 votesVotes are public

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1pt
infinity_haruka Heart Breaking King
bayubekha (1年前) #25703685should i say "welcome to the deepset dark valley without a way to return once you entered it"?
ye sorry for bad english

Thanks! :D Its really hard to back into surface

Heavenly_Otaku (1年前) #25718931What are the name of these shops, from where you were able to acquire such Angelic grail figures at that price? You much keep those for sure, they are treasures.
usually AmiAmi did it, I got it from AmiAmi back in winter 2015, its really such a bless ;)
1年前
4pt
Maybe you should get a Job to pay your figures... So your parents don´t be angry with you for spending their money...
1年前
1pt
What are the name of these shops, from where you were able to acquire such Angelic grail figures at that price? You much keep those for sure, they are treasures.
1年前
1pt
should i say "welcome to the deepset dark valley without a way to return once you entered it"?
ye sorry for bad english
1年前
1pt
I slowed down the amount of figures, now im never make any PO unless its a figure that can be found expensier in the market (Native, Gecco, etc) and im really waiting for that figure, any other manufacturer can wait until the figure is release, i have found this way i restraint more from purchase as i must hand over the money right away, with the PO i fall in the trap of "i will get the money by that date" and then debt start rolling over me.

I think you must avoid purchase of hunt any figure until they have some time in the market, that way something better will have appeared and the figure realease seems less attractive.
1年前
1pt
infinity_haruka Heart Breaking King
Pinokkio (1年前) #25672852You are aware of your problem that's a good sign. A healthy hobby makes you happy! Lying, feeling guilty, beaning obsessed and not having control, is that making you happy. Take a break of this hobby and find out why, maybe a professional can help you. You a college student with a tight budget.
Can you find happiness only in plastic figures?

Thanks! of course not, lying, feeling guilty, just add more pressure to heart which is not good at all
actually not, poeple's happiness isn't that easy, of course, me too
Thanks!

riringo (1年前) #25666279You should stop, or at least cut back. Everything you want can be bought again in the future, and believe me this hobby is SO much easier when you have your own income to support it. Be kind to your parents now, don't look back on this one day and regret it.
yea, will stop and be kind to my parent
Thanks for your opinion

ShaoMay (1年前) #25675085First, I hope by "my parents gave me the money" you mean it's christmas/birthday money and not actual money meant to be spent on important stuff. Because, that's a whole other story.
I think you should re-evaluate how you decide to pre-order something. If your parents only NOW tell you to not buy figures and goods mean somewhere you started to slip. To be honest 73 figure in a bit less than 2 years is a lot.
For a while, my parents too were not super happy about me spending so much. Especially when I went into my first shopping spree. However I convinced them that I know how to manage money well so now they don't bat an eye (ok they are a bit annoyed, but they aren't angry).
It's cliché, but take this as an opportunity to learn how to manage money, establish a budget, thinking money on a longer time period etc. Also, learning self control, learning about when you are weak and impulse buy. No need to stop completely, just take a break, analyse and come back stronger. :)

well, its because all my figure that I have now is old figure which is already released before I started to collecting figure also all my figure is not motionless at all ex: SHF, Figma, etc, that's why its a lot. of course if all 73 is motionless you can say me i'm crazy and by the way all of my figure that I have now, most of them is pre-owned and second hand item which is when I got them super cheap, I can say cheap because back in 2015 when I started to collecting this figure, there's several times I can get 5-6 PVC figures 1/8 or 1/7 in price 15.000 - 20.000 yen, that's why I have a lot of figure in less than 2 years.
btw Thanks for your opinion

Stalking (1年前) #25680661As others have mentioned, it really depends a lot on what the money they gave you was for.
If it was gift money, then you should really be able to do whatever you want with it.
If it was money for rent, food and such and you're spending it on leisure, I wouldn't be happy either.
Buying figures is a hobby. Like buying paintings, or having a large selection of clothes in your wardrobe. You don't need them, but they are fun to buy, have and photograph.. But you don't need them. A healthy relationship with your family is more important than a hobby. I don't know how your relationship with your parents is, but if the only thing that causes friction within you is your collecting, then I think you should have a calm talk with them.
You are allowed to have whichever hobby you want, but if it's an expensive one, be sure to feed it with your own money. If they gave the money to you as a gift, then it's already yours. If it was for rent/stuff, that's what it should be for.

exactly as you said, thats why I should stop this before its too late to stop at all
Thanks for your opinion!

yuuki_mafc (1年前) #25680846Until you get your own income to support your own hobby and lifestyle, I'd suggest to just take a break from collecting for now, as others pointed out - it is certainly not an in-expensive hobby, it can be quite costly...also what you don't buy now can be obtained later through the 2nd hand market place so don't sweat the good stuff. At the end of the day its just a money problem. Work hard and smart and one day you'll have all the figures you'd want. In the interim, if you absolute must buy something, narrow it down to a couple a year. Also take the opportunity to speak with your parents that you have a plan in place, that'll ease their concern. Perhaps find the time to get some employment if the hobby means a lot to you.
All the best,
-Yuuki

Thanks for your opinion, Yuuki-senpai
1年前
1pt
infinity_haruka Heart Breaking King
Daydokay (1年前) #25658623I would give it a pause if were you. This hobby of ours is not a cheap one. Every single figure you buy should be a product of a solid financial planning, otherwise it just becomes a addiction. One that could potentially tamper your social relationships (In you case, with your parents not trusting you with money for some time)
I'm currently 26, and although I a have a solid income due to my work, I take care not get too much carried away. You, as a college student, should also give a little bit more of a thought before proceeding.

will pause this for a while at least until I have my own income but of course, I should change my parent money back first.
Thanks for you opinion.

As410 (1年前) #25661921I'm going to go against what most people are saying here and say that it is fine to continue; to a degree.
Most people here are giving the advice that this is an expensive hobby that you should not engage in without a proper income, suggesting that you wait until you finish college and have a job and what not. These statements are logical.
However, from what it sounds like figure collecting is a positive aspect in your life. I agree with where you are coming from to a degree. And that at the end of the day figure collecting is a hobby. Everyone has their hobbies and they spend money on them. For me, figure collecting is the only "luxary" that I feel comfortable with spending money on. Any time I buy something else, many times I feel dissatisfied with what I bought, and feel bad that I wasted money on it. But with figures, I know exactly what I am spending my money on and what I can exepct. Some people think other people's hobbies are a waste of money, but if it is something you are truly passionate about I don't think you should feel bad about it. What matters is how we properly balance our spending habits on hobbies, so they stay as hobbies, and not addictions. And because you acknowledge that you have issues with impulse buying and managing your money; I think this is a good opportunity to figure out skills to better deal with these issues. For a start, I would recommend on thinking about a purchase before you order it. You should take a look at buyf*g.moe's flowchart on "should I buy". I put heavy emphasis on the "attachment to character". Try to only order figures for characters you have a personal attachment for. Do you have any figures in your collection that you don't feel as attached to as to when you first bought them? If you put yourself in a scenario where money is an issue, if you think to yourself "I wish I didn't buy figure X so I had money to buy figure Y". Try to avoid situations where you buy "figure X"
You mention selling some of your collection. If you feel comfortable with selling figures, a good place to start would be to sell figures you don't feel as attached to and use that money to buy those "must have" figures.
As bad as it sounds; learning how to use the money your parents give to you to buy the bare necessities while also saving up for figures can be a way to teach you how to be frugal; something that you will probably need to know how to do once you can't rely on your parent's income anymore.
At the end of the day, if figure collecting is a hobby that is special to you, you shouldn't give it up. The only issue I can't give a solution to you is that your parents are upset with you about it. Ideally if you can show that you can properly ration your money with this hobby and let them know it is special to you, maybe you can reach an agreement that it is ok. Using your parent's money unwisely comes with lots of feelings of guilt. Like you said, getting a job and paying them back could relieve this; but if they don't want you working then I think you should listen to this. From what it sounds like, I'm guessing your parents would rather have you focus on your studies than get too busy with working while doing school.
As a closing note; I agree that you should enjoy your youth while you can, and if this is a positive aspect to your youth, then you should continue; however I think you should try to cut back. Enjoy the present for what it is; fixiating on the future too much will just lead to unhappiness.
xXsKuNkAyXx (1年前) #25663227At the end of the day its really up to you what you want to do, however I will say considering it's your parents money I would respect their wishes and listen to what they say.
I mean, you could cut back on the expensive figures and get smaller cheaper ones every now and then I guess.
You're lucky to have parents who are able to even give you money and support you with your expenses.
I mean, yeah, I guess it would suck how you're not able to get all the things you want, cause believe me I know that feeling. Only being able to get 1 or 2 (if lucky) figures per year, but atleast I was able to get something.
Besides, once you've started working and earning your own money they can't say anything then cause it's not theirs.
But like I said, it's your call on what you want to do.

Thanks for your opinion
but for now I will stop buying figure, because I realized that my pocket money should spent on something more worth than this hobby for now.
About enjoying my youth life, maybe I should reconsider it again what the best I can do so I can enjoy my youth life w/o regret after that

WanderingWastrel (1年前) #25665445So you are concerned about continuing to collect anime figures.
Well, think of this. Are you collecting them mostly because they're anime, or mostly because they're figures?
If you like them because they're of your favorite characters, or from your favorite shows, then instead of collecting figures, try shifting most of your purchases to items of those characters/shows that are cheaper than figures. Clear files, badges, straps, etc. are all way way cheaper than scale figures are. Those will let you continue collecting, continue showing your appreciation for the shows you like, but also let you cut down on the spending. Later when you're hopefully more on your own and more economically secure, you can restart the figure part of your collection.
If, though, you primarily like them because they're figures, then try exploring the non-anime figure options to see if there are cheaper options there that will still let you scratch the collecting itch. (I don't know much about non-anime figures, so I can't give you advice on that myself.)
Of course, you might also want to consider taking out life insurance policies on your parents, and plotting waiting for their untimely eventual demise. If you installed, say, a lion pit and they tripped... oh, such a shame.
(for those unsure, yes, I'm joking about the lion pit. Poisoned darts triggered by loose paving stones are far more effective.)

I'm collecting them because I like this anime or character and by the moment I realized that your favorite anime or character get figure, nendo, figma, of course my first thought is I should have them.
btw Thanks for your opinion
1年前
1pt
infinity_haruka Heart Breaking King
Jenthehen (1年前) #25655432You should get a job so that you can support your hobby with that money and use your parent's support money for living expenses / food / school (I assume that's what they want you to do with their monetary gifts).
yeah i know, my pocket money was supposed to spend on my everyday living support

Heavenly_Otaku (1年前) #25655626Well, I suppose you can keep the Scale figures and sell the rest.
Scales are much more detailed and rewarding.

Will do, thanks for your opinion

Fallen-Cloud (1年前) #25656490If you are in a situation where you can't get a job because your parents will pull their supporting allowance away (which you should use for things that you need, save a few bucks on the side if you want to get something nice for yourself every once in a while) then buying more figures simply isn't an option in the first place (unless you save up for a long time and only get those you really can't live without). You are lucky that you can go to university and have parents that are wealthy enough to give you an allowance on top of that.
All the figures that I buy come from money that I earned through work - or money that I got as a birthday present, or the few bucks that I save up when my parents hand me a bit of money for being a good, hard-working daughter. Going to a university so far away that I would need to move away isn't even an option that I have right now. It would cost too much. I'm learning to become an office clerk right now and AFTERWARDS I can go to university if I get a job on the side so that I can make ends meet. My parents support me by letting me stay at home without having to pay them rent, so I have quite a lot of money for myself each month - however, I would have loved to go to university right away. That's an option that I didn't have and I would gladly have traded this hobby in for pursuing a higher career right away.
I need to take the long way, though. What's a few years of putting a hobby aside if it furthers your future path in life? You can keep some of your favourite figures, sell the rest and grow an even bigger collection once you graduated and got a job. You're an adult and should, in my opinion, act more responsibly.

will do my best to stop this hobby for a while (2-3 years)
Thanks for your opinion
1年前
1pt
This hobby should never be taken lightly because it can get costly very quickly...As someone who has a full time job it gets hard budgeting for life & hobbies at the same time. I can't even begin to imagine how you are managing w/ no income at this time. But I do advise you to stop collecting until you get your own income to help w/ this hobby
1年前
7pt
yuuki_mafc Founder of Peel Anime Club
Until you get your own income to support your own hobby and lifestyle, I'd suggest to just take a break from collecting for now, as others pointed out - it is certainly not an in-expensive hobby, it can be quite costly...also what you don't buy now can be obtained later through the 2nd hand market place so don't sweat the good stuff. At the end of the day its just a money problem. Work hard and smart and one day you'll have all the figures you'd want. In the interim, if you absolute must buy something, narrow it down to a couple a year. Also take the opportunity to speak with your parents that you have a plan in place, that'll ease their concern. Perhaps find the time to get some employment if the hobby means a lot to you.

All the best,
-Yuuki
1年前
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